9 things I learnt being a girl
Let’s look at the life of every girl- Since birth, people have been putting restrictions on their life wherever they go starting right from their home. While my brother hung out till late 11 or some good days, till mid night, i had to be back by 7 or in ‘my good days’ 7:30. As i grew up and went on to pursue graduation, my whole family was shortlisting college and i could help but notice that their first priority of selecting colleges were not its placement record, not even the infrastructure or teachers-students ratio, they wanted me to be within the radius of 5-6 hours and it cut a lot of good colleges out of their list.
This all doesn’t make me angry, not at all. I understand their concern. I understand the fear and terror in their hearts. I have felt it too. Consider me brainwashed or hard wired, i have made peace with that. I have fought with mother about it for a very long time and as i understood the world slow and steady, i thank my parents for it. But that’s not what we are here to talk about. To be honest, it’ really is a great feeling to be a girl. Agree or don’t, we do have the power to step in all the kind of fields. From getting all dolled up to fighting crimes, there is nothing we can’t have our hands on. Some it all up, we are that unsolved mystery of someone’s life and a beautiful secret of every other’s.
As a human, everybody learns something meaningful in their lives. Good or bad, beautiful or ugly, amazing or disappointing and I have learnt a hell of a thing being a girl which I feel is my responsibility to share it with you because learning is a good process and it brings out the most important changes in you, here are few.
It’s Your Gift, This Life
Remember the dollhouse we used to play when we were kids? Have we ever allowed someone else to claim their ownership on that? Then how can you allow them on your own life. Consider a mock drill where you are provided with certain amenities and you have to make it till the finish line using all the equipment with you . In similar way, we are provided with certain amount ‘happy’ and ‘sad’ which may no be in a balanced ratio but they are whatever you get. Using everything that you have, you have to make it to your next moment, your next day, your next year and finally to your finish line.
Flaws Are No Shame
Everybody have flaws, God make mistakes too and that’s the reason negativity exist. Flaws are important. It makes you appreciate what your strengths are. I flaunt my flaws like they are my prized possession and my man loves me for that. It all starts with acceptance and acknowledgement, i acknowledge my flaws and then i accept them.
Every one has their own unique identity which in no case would be similar to anyone else. Your very own identity is summation of all the good and bad in you, all the happy and sad in you, all your strength and flaws. Take your flaw out of yourself and you wont be who you are and i guess you wouldn’t like that, now would you?
Take it easy and love thyself
Love yourself, because that is what matters the most. Be charming and never get tired by adoring yourself. This will not just make you confident but will also make others respect you more. Remember nothing in this life can be bigger than your dignity. Be your “Mai apni favourite hoon!”
You know they say that to be able to love others, you need to love yourself first. To be able to take care of others, you need to take care of yourself. It is the first step to stay happy and content. I am not saying that you need to love yourself but look at all the good things you do for people. Look at all the times you were misjudged and you let go because you valued your relationship. You are indeed a good person at heart, you might just not figured it out yet.
Like good times, Heartbreaks come and go
Heartbreaks are crucial part of us. They drain the life out of us so that we can breathe afresh. Yes, it hurts; it hurts way more than a physical pain. But that pain is worth taking which brings out the best in you. Never give up on love. Love never leaves us even when people do. It just makes us stronger and wiser.
Yes, dream. Dream big and dream small. But never stop dreaming. Your passion and your goals are your immunity. Everything will die and may leave you but this, your dream will never. Set priorities and start the list from yourself. Have a clear vision of your life and voila!
Marry but Don’t Hurry
I know what society tell us but trust me, marriage is not your ultimate goal. It can never be. Never settle for marriage because you have to. Marry because you want to.
Value Your Values
Everybody has their own value and I am not talking about the one given by our parents. Of course, they are important too but I am talking about the one we built through time, from our life experiences and various lessons taken from various situations. For me “loyalty” is the most important value for me. I give my best and I expect the same in return and I never ditch my value at any circumstances.
Friends are the best gift a girl can receive. Weather you have a girl gang or a guy gang, if they stand by you no matter what, stick to them. Because love will come and go but best friends stays forever. Friendship is the boon to life and sacred thing to keep.
Forgive, don’t forget
Yes, that is something I follow. I can forgive people but I cannot forget what they did. Because once a lesson learnt, can never be avoided. This helps me take steps carefully and wisely.
Being a girl is my happy thing. Never in my life there is a dull moment. Enjoy who you are and never question your personality. Never apologise for something they want you to feel sorry for. And do what your heart says because this life is worth living.